San Francisco Bay Area Therapist for
First Time Moms
in their 40's
Support for high achieving Bay Area women who started motherhood in their 40s. Let's release the anxiety that comes with perfection, reconnect with who you are now -without the guilt.
This was not part of the plan...
You worked so hard to get here – the career, the financial security, the life you dreamed of. You finally felt ready to start your family.
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But this journey isn't what you imagined.
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The months or years of trying to conceive, organizing your life around treatments and cycles while keeping it together at work. The high-risk pregnancy filled with complications, hospital stays, and constant worry. The birth that didn't go as planned – emergency procedures at Stanford Medical, NICU stays at Good Samaritan Hospital in San Jose, trauma that no one prepared you for. The overwhelming postpartum days when everyone assumes you should be grateful and glowing.
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And through it all, you're watching your parents age, needing more support just when you're trying to figure out how to care for a tiny human too.
In your 40s, you're used to having control and answers. But this motherhood journey has left you feeling anxious, guilty, and exhausted from trying to show everyone you're "okay."
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You're tired of explaining your fears to people who don't understand the unique challenges of becoming a mother later in life. Exhausted from carrying it all alone while juggling competing demands on your heart and time.
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What if you could trust yourself through the uncertainty? What if perfectionism could transform into presence, and anxiety into genuine confidence in your ability to navigate whatever comes?
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This is why I'm here.
Therapy Specialties
I'm a San Francisco Bay Area based therapist, specializing in the parts of motherhood no one really talks about – the emotional rollercoaster of infertility struggles, pregnancy complications, and figuring out how to be a mom when you're used to having all the answers. Here's how I can support with where ever you are at on this journey.
Infertility Therapy for Women in their 40's in the Bay Area
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High-Risk and Perinatal Therapy in San Francisco
Postpartum Therapy for First-Time Mothers in Their 40s
Navigate the emotional rollercoaster of trying to conceive while managing demanding careers and well-meaning family questions. We'll help you process the grief, uncertainty, and medical decisions that come with fertility treatments, all while maintaining your sanity and relationships. No more suffering in silence or pretending you're "handling it all" perfectly.
From high-risk pregnancy complications to NICU stays and birth trauma, this journey rarely goes as planned. Learn to advocate for yourself through medical uncertainty while processing the fear, guilt, and overwhelm that comes with "advanced maternal age" labels and unforseeable complications. We'll help you find your voice when doctors say "we're not sure" and trust your instincts when everything feels out of control.
Transform the perfectionism that served you professionally into presence that serves your family. Learn to release impossible standards, ask for support without guilt, and find joy alongside the challenges of new motherhood – especially when you're also managing aging parents' needs. We'll help you trust yourself in this new role when you're used to having all the answers.
What makes my approach different?
Therapy with me looks like: You won't waste time educating me on variations of, fertility treatment, or why every medical appointment terrifies you - I've been there. Infertility treatments, high-risk pregnancy, days in the NICU with my premature son. I know the weight of living between hope and fear that no one around you understands.​​
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I know the demands of Bay Area life. As a San Francisco-based perinatal therapist, I understand the unique pressures of motherhood in the Bay Area - the high cost of living, the tech industry demands on your partner, the competition you feel even in mom groups. I also understand unspoken expectation, of being a woman of color, that you handle it all gracefully while your identity as an accomplished person collides with feeling completely lost as a new mother.
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​But your story is uniquely yours. I want to understand your specific struggles - how perfectionism shows up in your life, what cultural pressures you're navigating, which parts of your identity feel most at risk. We'll use your identity, herstory, and how you work best in our treatment so it actually fits your life, and not something generic that ignores the current reality.
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​​I'm your professional guide. You've already given a me an idea of your destination. I'll remind you of the tools you already have and present different paths to get there. We work collaboratively at your pace, and I'll make sure you have the right gear and emotional capacity to navigate this part of life. I'll be right by your side.​​​
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You'll get feedback directly connected to your goals from someone who has more than just an "idea" of where you are. Our journey's are different, but I am acquainted with the dialogue that you have in your head; the grief, fear, intrusive thoughts, guilt for not doing enough on top of appearing like you have it all together. ​​
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This isn't about "getting over" your journey. It's about integrating all parts of who you are so you can stop surviving motherhood and start living it - authentically, confidently, guilt-free.​
Schedule a Free Consultation
Think of our 30-minute consultation as a pause in your day - a chance to step back from managing everyone else's needs and focus on your own. We'll talk about what matters most to you right now, in this season of life. It's a simple first step - no pressure to have everything figured out.